Late last night, I downloaded onto our new computer photographs from several years ago, photos taken shortly before my cancer diagnosis and shortly after. And I found myself thinking, over and over, as I looked at the pictures of our life before my diagnosis, you did not know, back then, how frightened all of you would shortly be. But otherwise, the photographs are of an exuberant bunch of children — before and after. They are still that way. You don’t recover from something like this, if recover means go back to the way you were, before you knew that it was possible to get news like that. But it doesn’t alter the essential things about you. If you’re lucky, though, it deepens what’s essentially good. That’s what I hope happened to us. You don’t need a cancer diagnosis for that, you just need to remember to love every good thing in your life, no matter how small.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you and to everyone you love.